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2021 Review and Reflections

Here on the blog:

In 2021, I only wrote two posts. The first was my 2020 review and reflections, and then in March, I wrote a resource list of abuse advocates. Somehow, with this sparse contribution, the blog had its highest traffic at 15,571 views (next best was 2018 with 14,774 views). Half of those views came from searches.

Most visited posts:
Resource List: Abuse Advocates and Experts
RC Sproul on the Role of Men and Women
The Transformative Power of Good Leadership

Meanwhile, the 2021 Facebook page reach was 15,929,074
I grew from 9k to 22.9k followers in 2021
88.2% women, 11.8% men
Largest demographic between the ages 25-44

This post reached 4.3 million people:


A big part of me feels like I am just in a holding pattern on the blog – sharing the things I am reading and appreciating on my Facebook page, but not writing any of my own articles and content. So my goals for 2022 are:
1.) to post an article at least once a month on my blog,
2.) write at least one book review per month, and
3.) create at least one digital art piece or meme to share on Facebook per week,
so that I am contributing some of my own ideas and reflections to TBKW feeds.

When I begin to experience discouragement and doubt about the fruit of TBKW, God always seems to prick my conscience to keep going, often with an encouraging message through my FB page. Thank you to those who have followed, commented, liked, messaged and given me grace when I miss the mark. Most recently, I was reminded to be a “Good Troublemaker” while listening to a podcast. It isn’t always comfortable to confront the patriarchy, white supremacy, economic injustice, etc. But I believe deep in my heart that these issues matter to God and this is not the way God wants his Bride to function.

My overall feeling is gratitude that I have the opportunity to meet so many interesting and brilliant people through this page, and have important conversations. I am always trying to keep an open mind and open heart to what God may have to teach me through your messages and comments. Thank you all for being a part of TBKW community! I love you so much!!

My husband and I in October ❤

Quoting the Fathers of Complementarianism

I created an album on The Beautiful Kingdom Warriors Facebook page with sexist quote memes from influential theologians, past and present.

The album caption reads:

I made these memes to illustrate the origins of today’s complementarian (i.e. patriarchal) beliefs. Some complementarians simply appear unable to recognize the deeply ingrained sexism of their worldview. Just because they can’t see it, doesn’t mean it isn’t there:

Sexism [sek-siz-uh m] noun
1. attitudes or behavior based on traditional stereotypes of sexual roles.

2. discrimination or devaluation based on a person’s sex, as in restricted job opportunities; especially, such discrimination directed against women.

Ideas. Have. Consequences. Reading the Bible through a patriarchal lens devalues the imago dei (image of God) in women – who were created to share dominion with men (Genesis 1:28) and are gifted by the Holy Spirit to build the Kingdom alongside their brothers (Galatians 3:28).

These quotes are not the sum contribution of these theologians and pastors. Even great minds are only human and are marred by sin and an imperfect cultural bias. Every single human being is wrong about a lot of things, and I am not writing off everything they ever wrote about God and the Bible because I believe they were wrong about women.

However, it is also important to acknowledge that patriarchy stems from the curse and has been harmful to women and to the work of the Church. It is still present in this fallen world and in the Bride of Christ. Thankfully, Jesus is redeeming the fallen nature of the world and cleansing his Church of all impurities. Patriarchy will one day be a stain on the history of the Church rather than a present reality.

Send me more quotes and I will add to this album!

“Complementarian” refers to a theological view that men and women have different but complementary roles and responsibilities in marriage, family life, and religious leadership. Essentially, the view begets spiritual authority to men and subjugates women. The language (e.g. “complementary,” “equal but different”) can imply a harmless view, but it is inherently abusive to create hierarchy where God intends equality and to bar women from fulfilling their callings and using their gifts (Genesis 1:28, Galatians 3:28, etc.). All image bearers are created to have dominion and all believers have the Holy Spirit. Christ is the head of his Church and we are to submit to one another out of deference for Christ (Ephesians 5:21).

Here is a sample of the memes:

Please go to The Beautiful Kingdom Warriors on Facebook to share this album! And comment below if you know of more quotes you would add. Thank you!

Alan Hirsch – Missional Discipleship

alanhirschI had a wild experience this week, meeting a leader in the missional church movement that has been influential in my understanding of living on mission for God’s Kingdom. I had stayed up half the night before church last week, watching Alan Hirsch videos on Youtube, trying to find something I could show during our Sunday School hour to start a discussion on missional discipleship – which requires deconstructing our Christ-against-culture/evangelism/consumerism mindsets and reconstructing a mindset of discipleship through relationship, meeting and loving people where they are, drawing them to Christ through showing up, time and again.

Anyway, I had just had this Alan-Hirsch-binge and a few days later, was face-to-face with him at my job, where he was attending a dinner! “Are you Alan Hirsch?!” I exclaimed, and when he smilingly told me he was, we shook hands and I thanked him for his work. Then I recovered my professionalism and carried on. But it got me thinking that I ought to share his work here with my blog readers. So here is the video I chose for my Sunday School class, and the notes I passed out. You can learn more about Alan Hirsch here.

“Missional Discipleship” 

Discipleship is fundamental to our faith – it is formation in Christ. Missional discipleship incorporates the assimilation of spiritual disciplines (prayer, etc.) but goes beyond to involve ourselves in the eternal purposes of God in this world to redeem it to himself.

Highly transformative missional movements throughout history, with explosive growth and high transformation (the early Church, the Celtic movement, Moravians, Methodists, Pentecostals) have been obsessed with discipleship and disciple-making.

The key to the health, sustainment, extension and renewal of the church is not more evangelism, but more discipleship.

Greek philosopher Epictetus – “It’s impossible to teach a man what he thinks he already knows.”

There’s some unlearning we need to do. We’ve used the Great Commission to mean “we do evangelism.”

Matthew 28:16-20 “All power and authority has been given to me…Go…make disciples of the nations, teaching them to obey all that I’ve commanded you, baptizing them in the name of the Father, Son and Holy Spirit.” Where do you hear evangelism here? Evangelism is implied, but it is actually about discipleship.

The way we’ve been doing evangelism feeds consumerism. People are looking for purpose, meaning, significance, belonging, community – the very thing religion offers is being sought in consumption.

You can’t make disciples out of consumers. Jesus said “die,” come to the cross. You can’t take that out of the equation and expect the same results. We must begin with the end in mind – what God intends to achieve in the world. But we must also end with the beginning in mind. It’s all about discipleship, from beginning to end.

When were the disciples born again? Right up front? In the middle? Towards the end? The Johannine Pentecost (John 20:19-23)? Jesus has a whole lot of pre-conversion disciples. That’s what we should do! Don’t focus on the evangelism part, focus on discipleship. Somewhere along the line will come the born again experience – that comes from God. That’s Jesus’ business.

First draw out the image of God (Image Dei) and then the image of Christ (Imago Christi). Once you’re born again, you’re reformed into the image of Jesus.

Definition: The answer is Jesus.

I believe in substitutionary atonement achieved by Christ on the cross. But it’s not simply that. “It’s Jesus in my heart…but there’s no agenda in my life beyond that.”

Incarnation————————————————————————————————Cross
The exemplary life of Jesus, his life and teachings, the role he played –
This is the agenda of discipleship!

Ignoring the life of Jesus is a reduction of the Gospel that damages our capacity to be disciples. The cross is where Jesus is my Savior. The rest is where he is my Lord. It is a heresy to divide the person and work of Jesus.

Dietrich Bonhoeffer – “Discipleship means adherence to Christ, and, because Christ is the object of that adherence, it must take the form of discipleship. An abstract Christology, a doctrinal system, a general religious knowledge on the subject of grace or on the forgiveness of sins, render discipleship superfluous, and in fact they positively exclude any idea of discipleship whatever, and are essentially inimical to the whole conception of following Christ. Christianity without the living Christ is inevitably Christianity without discipleship. And Christianity without discipleship is always Christianity without Christ.”

C.S. Lewis “It is easy to think that the Church has a lot of different objects—education, building, missions, holding services …the Church exists for nothing else but to draw men into Christ, to make them little Christs. If they are not doing that, all the cathedrals, clergy, missions, sermons, even the Bible itself, are simply a waste of time. God became Man for no other purpose. It says in the Bible that the whole universe was made for Christ, and that everything is to be gathered in him. That is what it is all about.”


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